Dispatches from the Front Lines of Trauma Healing

Belonging
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

Belonging

Exclusion and belonging are part of the same dynamic, and at the core is a need to be seen and cared for, as a member of a group. On an animal level, I don't think we realize how much connecting to other people means to us and how valuable it is for our long-term well-being.

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The Problem with "Deserving"
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

The Problem with "Deserving"

Assuming we "deserve better" means that something in inherently unfair. You're being treated badly by someone or something, which immediately takes away your power and puts you in the stance of a victim. We say it about a situation or a person, but either way, "deserving" invokes the idea that we live in a fair and just universe, that has somehow failed to deliver to us what we are entitled to.

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Why Social Media is Making You Depressed (and What to Do About It)
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

Why Social Media is Making You Depressed (and What to Do About It)

Recent research now indicates social media actually causes depression — as in, there is a cause (social media use) and an effect (depression). The study, published in this month's Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, shows that limiting social media use to no more than 30 minutes a day significantly reduces loneliness and depression.

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How to Sleep: A Leader's Guide to Daily R&R
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

How to Sleep: A Leader's Guide to Daily R&R

Learning how to structure your rest and align with your sleep cycles will give you the foundation you need to feel good the rest of the day. Your mental alertness will contribute to emotional self-regulation, which means you're more resilient and adaptable when stress comes your way.

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How the 7 D’s are Disrupting Leadership-As-Usual
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

How the 7 D’s are Disrupting Leadership-As-Usual

Rapid technological change is fast creating a society that is going to be vastly different than the one we experience today. This is why leadership is so massively important. I want to explore just why exponential technologies are disruptive to leaders, because this can be deceptive.

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Accountability and Exploitation in Aid
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

Accountability and Exploitation in Aid

As leaders and changemakers, I'd like to explore the idea of community accountability when exploitation happens. I'm speaking specifically here to people who do service work in challenging places, because the power dynamic that I’m exploring is the same in the aid industry as elsewhere.

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5 Ways to Navigate Leadership on the Edge of Chaos
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

5 Ways to Navigate Leadership on the Edge of Chaos

We know the old tools aren't working. That's why, unless we do something about it, we're stressed out of our minds and unable to sleep, much less relax. Our to-do lists and obligations take us so far outside of ourselves that we spend the day rushing on our feet, forgetting to eat or drink, let alone rest or enjoy.

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How To Find a Good Therapist (Anywhere in the World)
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

How To Find a Good Therapist (Anywhere in the World)

My hope is to break down what it takes to get therapy because when you need it, it is a very useful resource. As changemakers who are responsible for teams and leading projects, it’s up to us to address our stressors and take care of our issues.

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An App to Help Sexual Assault Survivors Access Emergency Medical Care
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

An App to Help Sexual Assault Survivors Access Emergency Medical Care

Trauma-informed care for sexual assault survivors is available from only the most resourced health centers in a few places in the world, with no clear way to scale. So since 2015, I've been working with a coalition from around the world to create a mobile app resource to help sexual assault survivors navigate the health system. We call it the Rape Crisis Counseling app.

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Supercharge Your Self-Care
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

Supercharge Your Self-Care

I hate to say it, but in a list of priorities, we changemakers are way too used to putting ourselves last. I hope you see that for us to be successful in this work, for us to make a dent in the future, how we treat ourselves must change.

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Facebook Made Me a Bad Friend
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

Facebook Made Me a Bad Friend

I'm in transition now to using tech more consciously. I've seen the impact it's had on my well-being and negotiating this relationship more proactively is now a major factor in my self-care.

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A Leader is Someone on Purpose
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

A Leader is Someone on Purpose

It's a gift to witness ourselves and each other at near-breaking points. To stand beside a grieving friend or a colleague struggling with the right thing to do is a kind of leadership. I don't think, as leaders, we give ourselves nearly enough credit for the work we do of supporting each other. It's as vital as the work we do of service in the world.

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The Minimum Viable Product of a Daily Yoga Practice
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

The Minimum Viable Product of a Daily Yoga Practice

If you optimize your yoga practice, you get the same benefits in less than half the time. With a consistent 3-5 x week practice of 15 minutes, you will notice measurable differences to your health and happiness.Don't take my word for it. Try it yourself!

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Your Path on Purpose
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

Your Path on Purpose

Learning to voice our needs with confidence is crucial for changemakers. We're often people-pleasers in the extreme and somewhere in our programming, decided that others' needs are more important than our own. Re-orienting ourselves around self-care and our right to be healthy and happy allows us to claim our power that much more deeply.

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The Highly-Sensitive Changemaker
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

The Highly-Sensitive Changemaker

High-sensitivity means that our nervous systems are more acutely aware of and receive more external stimulus, compared to others. It's a trait that shows up in about 20% of animals and it’s a finely tuned adaptation mechanism for herd survival.

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Making the Mind an Ally
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

Making the Mind an Ally

On a personal level, when we look to the mind to solve our problems, the very beliefs and structures that we use to make sense of our world can make it almost impossible to find a real solution, much less help us out of the increasing stress response we feel.

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Why Our Needs are Non-Negotiable
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

Why Our Needs are Non-Negotiable

If others are so much worse off, struggling to survive or make it to the next day, we tell ourselves, isn't self-care a luxury? If others have needs that must be attended to, shouldn't we give up our own need for well-being so that theirs’ can be met?

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The Bystander is the Fulcrum
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

The Bystander is the Fulcrum

If we don't stand proactively and aggressively for the civil liberties we believe in and that others have sacrificed even their lives for, then we allow the wave of hate and intolerance sweeping not just the US, but other places in the world, to win.

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