Articles on Trauma and Relationships
How We Retraumatize Ourselves (and What to Do About It)
Much of what passes for healing can make complex trauma worse. Learn how biohacking, spiritual practices, and pushing through "resistance" retraumatize your nervous system.
What Dissociation is Trying to Tell Us (about PTSD & CPTSD)
Dissociation is more than a failure to be present. It's your nervous system protecting you from what it can't yet process. Learn what it's trying to tell you and how to respond.
A Love Letter to Dissociation
Dissociation isn't weakness or failure. It's an ancient survival strategy trying to keep you safe. Learn why going to war with it only makes it stronger.
The Fallacy of Catharsis
Suffering doesn't heal trauma, it makes it worse. Learn why intense healing modalities retraumatize your nervous system and what actually works instead.
The #1 Reason You Shouldn’t Meditate
Meditation teachers won't tell you this: traditional meditation can retraumatize people with active PTSD or CPTSD. Learn why closing your eyes might be the worst thing you can do.