Articles on Trauma and Relationships
Anxiety is a Messenger
CPTSD anxiety isn't regular anxiety. It's a messenger from unresolved trauma. Learn five ways it shows up and why befriending it works better than managing it.
Presence, Not Perfection
Perfectionism seems like it’s about high standards, but it’s actually armor against rejection. Learn why trying to "get it right" sabotages the connection you're longing for, and what to practice instead.
Complex Trauma and Emotional Safety
You long for connection but other people don't feel safe. Hypervigilance, push-pull, and the terror of intimacy aren't character flaws. They're signs of complex trauma.
More is Not More
You think intensity means progress. It doesn't. The Window of Tolerance is where healing happens, and you keep blowing past it. Learn why slowing down is the only way forward.
Why Neuroception is a Trauma Healing Superpower
Your nervous system decides whether someone is safe or dangerous before you even think about it. When trauma distorts that signal, everything feels like a threat. Learn how neuroception works.
Foundational Trauma Skills for the Body (Part 2)
Your body already knows how to heal trauma. Learn grounding, resourcing, and orienting — three somatic skills that help your nervous system find its way back to safety.
Foundational Trauma Skills for the Body (Part 1)
It sounds counterintuitive to go towards the trauma when your body, mind, and emotions are screaming at you to run away. But by learning to sit with what is already here, bit by bit, we gently befriend our responses and learn to tend attentively to our own needs. It’s an intrinsically healing process.
Why Stress Keeps Looping (and What to Do About It)
The stress won't stop because you haven't finished the cycle. Your nervous system is stuck in replay. Learn what completing a stress response actually looks like.
The #1 Reason You Shouldn’t Meditate
Meditation teachers won't tell you this: traditional meditation can retraumatize people with active PTSD or CPTSD. Learn why closing your eyes might be the worst thing you can do.