Articles on Trauma and Relationships
How We Retraumatize Ourselves (and What to Do About It)
Much of what passes for healing can make complex trauma worse. Learn how biohacking, spiritual practices, and pushing through "resistance" retraumatize your nervous system.
Stop Shaking the Baby
High sensation seeking feels like aliveness, but it's often a sophisticated way to avoid healing. Learn why intensity keeps you stuck and how to find your way to calm.
When Tolerance is a Bad Thing
You'd say you were mostly fine. But underneath that "fine" is hopelessness you've learned to tolerate. Learn why insight alone doesn't heal complex trauma and what does.
Why It's Hard to Savor the Good Stuff (in Trauma Healing)
You've worked so hard for this life, but you can't let the good stuff in. Learn why trauma blocks pleasure, and how to teach your nervous system that feeling good is safe.
The Mask of High-Performance
You rarely rest because the dread starts the instant you pause. Learn why high performance masks unresolved trauma and what your hardworking part is really protecting you from.