Dispatches from the Front Lines of Trauma Healing

The Mother Inside
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

The Mother Inside

In the same way that we have younger parts, we can also have parts that want to protect and care for us in our inner world. They can be any type of caregiver, but I find that most of us have an inner mother and an inner father that we relate to inside.

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Why We Need Radical Rest
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

Why We Need Radical Rest

When the entire world is telling you to keep going, resting is a radical act of self-care. When we rest, we let ourselves know that whatever we’re doing, it’s safe to step away.

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Fear and the False Self
Complex Trauma & CPTSD, Trauma & Relationships Elie Losleben Calhoun Complex Trauma & CPTSD, Trauma & Relationships Elie Losleben Calhoun

Fear and the False Self

Trauma happens when the body's systems are overwhelmed and get stuck digesting the traumatic experience, so the impact of it stays in the system rather than being processed and discharged. This can be experienced many ways, particularly as fear, which is often described in self-help programs as "false evidence appearing real."

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It is Not Okay
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

It is Not Okay

We are at the beginning of rapid change towards something new, so it's natural to experience a bit of vertigo and stress about it. We look for safety and security, and if we don't find it, we grab and clutch at something to take its place.

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It's a Relay, Not a Marathon
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

It's a Relay, Not a Marathon

COVID has shown me gaps in our empathy and support systems that I am unable to stomach. All around me, I see people paralyzed by the misplaced hope that someone will come to help or save them. You've heard the line from June Jordan’s poem, "We are the ones we have been waiting for.” Right now, that statement feels like both a blessing and a curse.

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Say No to Martyrdom
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

Say No to Martyrdom

It’s a bad feeling, watching health care workers plead for support and supplies, and tell us that they’re willing to sacrifice themselves for us. It’s hard to keep reading the news after seeing a message like that, but because of our leadership stories, we do. We consider martyrs an inevitable outcome of the system, but what if that wasn’t true?

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Help with Hypervigilance
Complex Trauma & CPTSD Elie Losleben Calhoun Complex Trauma & CPTSD Elie Losleben Calhoun

Help with Hypervigilance

Hypervigilance means being overly attentive to your environment because you are afraid something terrible is about to happen. It’s like we don’t want to be surprised by bad news, so we think we can anticipate it. Only, that’s not how it works. Hypervigilance actually does the opposite of protecting us.

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F*ck Productivity
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

F*ck Productivity

Anyone telling you that you need to optimize your time right now is deep in their own freak-out and acting like a robot. Posting about how we can optimize our work output during this crisis feels off when so many of us are losing jobs and afraid our loved ones will fall sick (if they're not sick already). Reaching for quick fixes points to a deep denial about what is going on.

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Self-Care and COVID-19: An Invitation
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

Self-Care and COVID-19: An Invitation

We need to learn how to do the work ahead of us in a way that doesn't consume us, that is not just sustainable but in fact deeply nourishing. I know that it's possible. What it requires is self-care.

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Safety Planning for Coronavirus (COVID-19)
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

Safety Planning for Coronavirus (COVID-19)

If you understand exponentials, you can see that like a slow-moving tidal wave, COVID-19 is becoming a serious pandemic. Because of exponential growth, what seems like a slow rise of cases can quickly surge to overwhelm our health centers. ­We all want do our part to avoid this, so let’s explore some risk mitigation…

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Leadership in the Time of Coronavirus (COVID-19)
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

Leadership in the Time of Coronavirus (COVID-19)

The public health system undertakes pandemic preparedness to be ready for a time like this. Almost everyone underestimates how much can be done to prevent more cases with simple behavior change.

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5 Signs that Changemaker Stress is Impacting Your Life
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

5 Signs that Changemaker Stress is Impacting Your Life

Things are getting more chaotic as the pace of change accelerates. There are lots of reasons for this, but around the world, old systems are under tremendous strain. We're already in transition towards something new, but probably not prepared for the toll this uncertainty is taking on us as leaders.

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How To Create a Daily Meditation Practice
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

How To Create a Daily Meditation Practice

Three minutes is the Minimum Viable Practice because everyone has three minutes a day to meditate. Everyone. New mothers, CEOs who live in business class, my friends on humanitarian assignment in Mozambique. In all my teaching, I have found this to be true.

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What You Need to Know about Stress (Before it Hurts You)
Elie Losleben Calhoun Elie Losleben Calhoun

What You Need to Know about Stress (Before it Hurts You)

Stress may not be optional, but how we respond to it is. People exposed to the same stressors have different stress hormone levels, depending on how each individual responds. We may not be able to control the stress we’re exposed to, but how we chose to respond to it is everything.

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