Articles on Trauma and Relationships
Foundational Trauma Skills for the Body (Part 1)
It sounds counterintuitive to go towards the trauma when your body, mind, and emotions are screaming at you to run away. But by learning to sit with what is already here, bit by bit, we gently befriend our responses and learn to tend attentively to our own needs. It’s an intrinsically healing process.
The Two Types of Trauma (and Why to Know the Difference)
You thought trauma looked like a war movie. It doesn't. There are two types, and the one most people carry is invisible, even to themselves. Learn the difference.
The Mother Inside
"I don't want you to write." My mother said it once. The part of me that copied her has said it a thousand times since. Learn how to reshape the inner caregiver who's still running your life.
Why Stress Keeps Looping (and What to Do About It)
The stress won't stop because you haven't finished the cycle. Your nervous system is stuck in replay. Learn what completing a stress response actually looks like.
The Prison of Optimism
"Everything happens for a reason." When people force optimism on someone in pain, it shames them into silence. Learn why forced positivity is the opposite of support.
The #1 Reason You Shouldn’t Meditate
Meditation teachers won't tell you this: traditional meditation can retraumatize people with active PTSD or CPTSD. Learn why closing your eyes might be the worst thing you can do.