Articles on Trauma and Relationships
How to Heal Sexual Trauma with Your Partner
Trauma responses are not a sign that we or our partners are doing anything wrong.
Shutdown and Intimacy after Trauma: What Your Partner Needs to Know
When shutdown happens around intimacy, is often not about you or the relationship. Unresolved trauma is simply interrupting their arousal response, pointing towards what needs to heal.
When the Heart Says "Yes" But the Body Says "No"
When your body says no to intimacy with someone you love, it's not bad chemistry or something wrong with you. It's trauma. And it can heal.
Why We Freeze During Intimacy (And How to Feel Safe Again)
You crave closeness but your body shuts down the moment intimacy begins. Learn why the freeze response hijacks intimacy after sexual trauma and how to work with it, not against it.
Why Sexual Trauma Shows Up in Healthy Relationships
You finally feel safe with your partner. Then the flashbacks start. Learn why sexual trauma surfaces in healthy relationships and why it's actually a sign you're ready to heal.
What to Do About Shutdown and Sexual Trauma
You've stopped wanting intimacy. Your body goes numb the moment it begins. That's not a choice — it's shutdown from sexual trauma. Learn what's happening and how to heal.
Escaping the Trap of Performativity
You learned what sexuality is "supposed to" look like from culture, media, and religion. But none of it is you. Learn how performativity replaces authentic intimacy after trauma.
How Trauma of Any Kind Shows Up During Intimacy (and What to Do)
The trauma doesn't have to be sexual for it to show up during intimacy. Any unresolved trauma in your nervous system can hijack arousal. Here's the neurobiology of why.
21 Signs of Unresolved Sexual Trauma (that You Can Heal)
You might not remember what happened. But your body does. Here are 21 signs that unresolved sexual trauma is still showing up in your life, and why every one of them can heal.
The Sacred “No”
You were taught that your "no" was inconvenient. Now you freeze, fawn, or apologize when you should be holding your ground. Learn what was taken from you and how to get it back.