Articles on Trauma and Relationships
How to Do Relationship Repair
"I'm sorry" isn't enough. Real relationship repair requires contrition, accountability, and amends. Learn the 3-part process that actually heals what arguments break.
How We Let Anger Sabotage Our Intimate Relationships
Anger is a strategy, not just an emotion. Learn why angry complaint pushes your partner away and what to do instead, from a trauma and relationship specialist.
Safety Strategies (that Always Fail) in Relationships
Being right. Control. Withdrawal. Retaliation. These strategies kept you safe in childhood. Now they're destroying your relationships. Learn what to do instead.
Why to Plan for Aggression (in Trauma Healing)
You're finally healing and then you snap at the people helping you. That's the kickback — aggression that surfaces as your nervous system moves out of shutdown. It's normal.